The holidays are my favorite time of the year because it’s a time for joy, celebration, and gratitude. However, the holidays may bring mixed emotions, even sadness, loss, or loneliness for some. Whatever stage you’re in during this time of the year, it’s essential to find moments of joy where you can. Here are some ways to help you get through the holidays and make the most of this magical season.
RETHINK YOUR EXPECTATIONS
So many of us have a picture in our heads of what the holidays should be like, due to society having high expectations of what the holidays should be. The feelings of loneliness and sadness may be amplified if you don’t have a close family or a romantic partner. Often, we end up disappointed that our holidays don’t live up to society’s expectations. Try to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect holiday or a perfect family. Try to find moments of joy or gratitude in those moments, even if things may not go as planned. You don’t need to be in a romantic relationship or have a perfect family to enjoy this time of the year.
KEEP UP WITH HOLIDAY TRADITIONS
Due to the ongoing pandemic, the holidays don’t have to change much, even though things will be different this year. You can still build gingerbread houses with your S.O (significant other) or by yourself. You can still send holiday greeting cards to family and friends via Paperless Post. You can still put up the Christmas tree and festive decor. And, you can drive around town and look at everyone else’s holiday outdoor lights and decorations.
For Christmas dinner, put on that dress or outfit you’ve wanted to wear all year. Cook a delicious dinner and pair it with a special bottle of wine. Try a new festive recipe. Michelin-star restaurants all over the U.S. are offering DIY holiday meal kits. Pick one up and enjoy a delicious Michelin star meal in your cozy home. Enjoy your favorite festive traditions that you can continue this holiday season. Don’t forget to squeeze in some time for self-care too!
STAY CONNECTED (VIRTUALLY)
Feeling lonely because you won’t get to see your friends or extended family? Round up your best girlfriends to video chat while preparing your holiday dinner. Schedule a Peloton workout with a few friends or family members. You won’t feel guilty when you have that second glass of mulled wine (Glühwein) later. Give a quick call to a loved one to check in and see how they’re feeling about the holiday season. Stay connected with the people that you love in the ways that you feel most comfortable with. You don’t have to be alone this holiday season if you don’t want to.
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR LOSS
If you’re missing a loved one, find ways to honor their memory as you celebrate the festivities. If you’ve lost a job, take time to find the learnings from that situation. Take this time off to pursue passions that you’ve always wanted or figure out your next move. It’s okay to take a rest and relax for the rest of the year. Whatever your loss may be, take time to grieve and find what you can take from that situation. I hope you’re taking the time to find moments of joy and gratitude during this holiday season.
What are your favorite ways to get through the holidays? Share your favorite tradition, mantra, or routine below. I’m wishing you the loveliest holiday season yet, my loves!